8 tips for talking to your children about separation

Separation can be a difficult time to navigate, especially for children. At Stone King we recognise the uncertainty and anxiety that can arise when parents make the difficult decision to separate, and have collated these 8 quick tips for how you can talk to your children about separation.

1. When talking to children about separation, talk to them together and give age-appropriate clear explanations which they can understand. Be prepared to answer any questions they have honestly.
2. Provide clear messaging that you still love your children, both remain their parents and what has happened is not their fault.
3. Understand that reactions to the news of separation are entirely normal. Allow children time and space to process and express these emotions at their own pace.
4. Children are creatures of habit – provide stability and continuity to the children’s routines wherever possible.
5. Children need time with each parent. Openly support and do not obstruct time with the other parent.
6. If you have more than one child, consider their needs as individuals. One size does not fit all.
7. Practice self-care – prioritising your wellbeing is the best example you can set for your children.
8. The golden rule - keep conflict away from children under all circumstances.  Research has shown that it is not the separation of parents that negatively impacts children’s wellbeing but, rather, witnessing their parents engaged in conflict which can have long-lasting and damaging consequences.  

At Stone King we have a dedicated team of experts, who are able to help throughout all the stages of separation. If you would like more information, please get in touch with our team today.