Backpacks, books and boundaries: are you set for the new term?

As the long summer break comes to an end, many families look forward to the structure and routine that the new school term brings. For separated parents, however, the transition back to school can raise practical and sometimes sensitive issues.

Clear communication and careful planning at this time of year can help minimise conflict and ensure that children start the new term in a positive and settled way.

1. Returning to routine

The return to school often marks a significant shift from the more flexible arrangements of the summer holidays. During the break, contact arrangements may have been varied to accommodate travel, childcare, or extended time with each parent. As term begins, it is important to:

• re-establish the usual routines, which may be set out in any parenting agreement or court order;
• confirm handover times and locations for school days; and
• ensure consistency so that children know what to expect.

Children benefit greatly from stability, particularly at the start of a new academic year.

2. School drop-offs, pick-ups and communication

Day-to-day school arrangements can sometimes become a source of disagreement. Parents should aim to agree in advance:

• who is responsible for morning drop-offs and afternoon collections;
• whether the child will attend breakfast club or after school clubs; and
• what happens in the event of illness or emergencies.

3. Uniforms, equipment and costs

The start of term often brings expenses including uniforms, stationery, and extracurricular fees. Disputes can arise if expectations are unclear. To avoid this:

• agree how costs will be shared (particularly if there is no formal arrangement already in place);
• ensure each household has adequate clothing and equipment for the child; and
• avoid placing children in the middle of financial discussions.

If a Child Maintenance Service (CMS) arrangement is in place, remember that this typically covers basic maintenance only and does not always include additional school-related costs unless expressly agreed.

4. Extracurricular activities and commitments

As children return to school, they may wish to start or resume clubs, sports, or other activities. These commitments can impact contact arrangements. Parents should:

• discuss and agree any new activities in advance;
• consider how attendance fits within existing arrangements; and
• keep the child’s interests at the centre of decision-making.

Flexibility is often required, particularly where activities fall on one parent's scheduled time.

5. Managing disagreements

It is not uncommon for tensions to arise at transition points such as the start of the school year. If disagreements occur, consider:

• focusing on the child’s welfare and best interests;
• using written communication to reduce misunderstandings; and
• exploring mediation before taking formal legal steps.

6. Supporting children emotionally

The start of a new school year can be both exciting and daunting for children, particularly if they are navigating life across two households. Parents can support their children by:

• presenting a united and reassuring front where possible;
• avoiding conflict in front of the child; and
• encouraging open conversations about any concerns.

Children benefit most when they feel supported by both parents, regardless of the family structure.

The return to school is a key moment in the family calendar. For separated parents, a proactive and cooperative approach can make a significant difference to how smoothly this transition unfolds.

If you are experiencing difficulties in agreeing arrangements or have questions about parental responsibility and school-related decisions, seeking early legal advice can help clarify your position and avoid further conflict.