Mother’s Day following separation

Mother’s Day as with other special occasions, may cause stress and tension for separated parents in trying to do the right thing. Difficulties can sometimes arise if Mother’s Day falls on a day when the children are not with their mum. It is always better to come to an amicable agreement to around special days such as Mother’s Day. Whilst it may cause some disruption with the current child arrangement plan, it is best to plan ahead so that the children don’t experience conflict.

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It may be a sensible option to swap weekends or days so that the children can spend time with their mum on Mother’s Day. Sometimes there may be times when it is not possible for the children to see their mother on Mother’s Day, however there is no rule to say that your own celebration of Mother’s Day has to take place on the official date, make a new tradition. Alternatively, think about a Facetime, or Skype call.

Cards and gifts

A small token gift or homemade card may be an option, encourage your child to put together a gift or card for their mother. Although this might be hard if the separation is recent, the children do need to see that you are supportive of their relationship with you both.

Social media

Try and take a break from social media as it can be quite difficult to see other mothers enjoying spending time with their families. It’s important to remember that social media posts are not always a true reflection of what is going on in people’s life. Taking a social media detox, even if it is just for one day has many benefits, not only will you will gain more time to spend with the children, but it can also give a very welcome detox from the social comparison cycle.

It’s important to have the consideration of your children at the forefront of your mind, as it can go a long way to let the children know that even though their parents may be separated, special days will still be that for them.

Stone King LLP appreciate that it can often be difficult to come to an amicable agreement when making decisions about contact and co-parenting. Stone King LLP has a team of experienced mediators and family lawyers. Please call 01225 337 599 if you require any assistance.